God created a woman for a man as a companion and a Christian wife know this. As a wife, there are particular things a Christian wife should give her husband according to biblical demands.
It is considered appropriate for a man to love his wife and for the wife to reciprocate the same for love and harmony to reign in a family. A Christian wife also has a role to play as far as marriage is concerned.
It is not just the husband’s duty to create a peaceful home. It is a two-sided responsibility and if played well, the home becomes a home and not just a house.
In a society that is fast decaying morally, people tend to look up to Christian women for the perfect lifestyle that is worth emulating. They are often viewed as a mirror that people look up to for corrections were necessary.
Things a Christian Wife Should Give Her Husband
This article expatiates on the 8 things a Christian wife should give to her husband. For a peaceful coexistence, there is a need for support, submission, good meals, peace, ideas, trust, help, blessings, etc. these ingredients, no doubt guarantee a peaceful and healthy relationship.
Support and important Decision Making
A Christian wife supports the husband in every aspect of his endeavors. Support can be a positive or a negative one.
There were women in the bible that supported their husbands to do evil, there were also those that spoke to the husbands against evil and there were those that ran away from such acts. Support is simply lending a helping hand.
It also includes motivating others positively in other to ease off the stress of dreams and goal achievement.
Supportive Christian wives are often respected by their husbands. They do not often seek the attention of the family, they have it already.
They do not struggle for anything. They simply earn it through the exemplary kind of life they lead. When support is an ingredient, everything and anything is achievable.
Decision-making is also very important, especially the right ones. Oftentimes, people are not always in the right frame of mind when saying or doing certain things.
It is her duty and also in her place to help him and guide him through the process of making the right decisions.
The story of Abigail; a Jewish woman is a typical example of a Christian wife that stood in for her husband in terms of healthy and good decision-making. 1 Samuel 25. Abigail is a model here that is worth emulating.
She was married to a rich man, Nabal that was rude but she was different. She saved him from the king’s wrath.
Some women would have treated the king with disdain, many women would have insulted the king for the husband’s interest.
But, Abigail was different, she distinguished herself from such and she saved her marriage, her home and her family because of that singular act.
Sometimes, Christian wives have to distinguish themselves and take the bull by the horn. She has to go for the right thing anytime, anyway. Although it was unknown to Abigail what the king had intended to do, she begged on behalf of the husband and he was spared.
Being married does not usually mean you will say yes at all times, it sometimes means that you know what is bad and then you decide to retrace your steps to save your marriage and your family from seen or unseen danger.
Decisions can make or mar a marriage but, healthy decisions makes fosters togetherness in a home.
One of the 8 Things a Christian Wife Should Give Her Husband is Submissiveness
A Christian wife submits to her husband. Submissiveness should not be forced. Instead, it should be given with a free mind and it should be earned. Being submissive does not mean closing your eyes to evil and condoning it in the name of being submissive.
In as much as you are submissive, you will know your boundary and you will not allow anyone to drag you beyond that.
A submissive wife earns the love of her husband without a fight or argument. She simply knows how to control and manage the husband’s home and sometimes business when his mind or health is not in a steady state.
Good Meals
Good meals they say are the way to a man’s heart. Good meals are simply what sustains man. A Christian wife prepares good meals for her husband.
She ensures that her family are well taken of. The family’s happiness is her priority.
Sometimes, people do not just eat because they are hungry, they eat just to satisfy their yearning. Physical food should not just be the only served food, spiritual food should also be served in other to create a balance.
Wives should also feed their husbands healthy diets that will ensure that their health is not compromised. Some people carry out laboratory tests before eating, drinking or putting anything into their systems.
All the tests might be carried out but before and after eating but, supplications and praises should be raised to the provider of the meal. For those that are in need, they should ask of the lord and he is gracious. He will supply it according to His riches in glory.
Peace and Forgiveness
Peace and forgiveness are essentials for togetherness in a family. In a peaceful home, important decisions are made with ease. People do not argue much, they just need to understand and know where they are heading to.
A Christian wife ensures there’s peace but she helps to maintain a peaceful home. An individual must make up his or her mind to be at peace. It cannot be forced on anyone.
Peace is a fruit of the Holy Spirit. It can be given by God to men. There is peace already in accepting Jesus as a personal Lord and Savior. It is inner peace.
The peace that reigns from within. It flows without an end. In other to maintain a peaceful home, wives must indulge in activities, conversations etc. that ensure a happy and peaceful home.
God is the only being that is without a fault or a sin. Humans will always err and so is our husbands.
To create a sustainable relationship and marriage, forgiveness should be practised regularly. Psalm 23 “Forgive our sins as we forgive those that trespass against us”.
No one has not gone wrong either in one way or another other but the best part is forgiveness; the ability to let go and also give a fresh opportunity to make amends for past mistakes.
Be it as it may, it should not be underrated, when a spouse is forgiven, there is no need to continue sinfully again to prevent future hurt.
Great Ideas for Securing Wealth
People always say “what a man can do, a woman can do better”, I would rather paraphrase to represent: “what a man can think about, a woman can also come up with a better version of the ideas”.
A Christian wife should be able to think outside of the box. A Christian wife can supply the husband with laudable ideas that can make him be looked for in his chosen field of endeavour. The ideas could be business, health, career, etcetera.
Although, it is believed that some men have the habit of looking down on their wives. A wife is a gift from God. She was created especially for you. Tap from her fountain of knowledge and be more blessed than you could ever think of.
It is wrong for any man to look down on any woman. Treat her with courtesy and the respect she deserves and she will pour out her heart, ideas and life-changing experiences into you.
Trust
In a world that is fast fading away with trust issues. A Christian wife should build and maintain trust in her marriage and relationships with her family. Trust is a very crucial element in marriage.
When a spouse is trusted, it builds in him or her the confidence to do exceptionally fine. The story of Sampson and Delilah makes some men if not many not trust and tell the wives the secrets in their lives for the fear of betrayal.
A Christian woman should associate with people that will enable the husband to do away with any iota of doubt that may cross his mind. The stories of virtuous women from the Bible should be emulated and put into practice.
The story of a woman like Michal, King Saul’s daughter, should send a very serious message to our Christian women. She earned her husband’s love because she trusted and protected the King, David from her father’s wrath, selfishness and wickedness.
People always like referring to bad situations other than good ones. The story of Sampson and Delilah is often said to be the story of King David and Michal.
Christian wives in the world today, should look out for and emulate the right kind of attitudes so that it will erase the negative narrative of Delilah.
Helpmate
A woman was created as a help mates to a man. A Christian wife has to put into practice what God said during the time of creation. Eve was created as Adam’s helper.
God, from the onset of time, knew that Adam could not be all alone by himself. God made Eve for Adam and Adam for Eve.
This implies that both men and women have a role to play when it has to do with building and sustaining a healthy family. A Christian wife should not shy away from her role of helping the husband.
She should not leave all the responsibilities on the shoulders of her husband. This if not checked, leads to the untimely passing of the husband as a result of pressure from unpicked bills.
So, while the husband is still breathing, active and strong, a Christian wife must contribute her quarter towards the growth of the family. It would not be wrong if a woman takes up a high-paying skill, goes to school or learns a trade.
A Christian Wife indirectly determines her husband’s longevity. When she exhibits a less affair attitude, the husband might die untimely due to stress that might lead to a terminal and any other ailments.
A Christian Wife Should be a Blessing
A Christian wife should be a channel of blessing to the husband and not a channel for misfortune, curse and calamity.
A Christian wife should be able to invoke blessings on the life of her husband and not curse. She should not indulge in activities that will bring curses, insult and disgrace to the husband and the family.
There are many ways of invoking blessings. It can be through doing the right things, staying away from adultery, and bringing up children according to biblical principles/ ordinances of God.
When a woman blesses her husband, the union becomes more strong, more enjoyable and more peaceful. So many things would just be achieved with ease and fewer struggles.
Conclusion
A Christian wife has numerous gifts to offer her husband. They range from contributing to making sound decisions and being submissive, faithful and trustworthy. A Christian wife can be a blessing in so many ways; raising children in the way of the lord. When the children are of age, they will bless and honour the parents.
Sometimes, society may show us what to do and how to live our lives but there is a standardised way of life according to the Bible. There are so many things a Christian wife can give to her husband to sustain a happy and fulfilled home.
However, few of these are exemplified in the scripture while some can be emulated. The Holy Spirit will always be there to guide you on how to live your life that is pleasurable to God and your husband.
The Holy Spirit will also help you to carry yourself in every circumstance you may find yourself. Marriage is a union that is blessed by God; He started the organization Himself and He can perfect it.
Marriage was meant to be enjoyed and not endured. Christian wives should create the right kind of environment they yearn for if they want their marriage and relationship to work and God should be the foundation of every marriage.
